A number of you are planning to travel the world one day, which won’t happen unless you can overcome these 7 obstacles. Here are Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3 of this series.
Dealing with the practical issues of how to travel the world are usually at the forefront of obstacles we focus on, but can be much easier to overcome than intangible emotional dilemmas. Once you’ve decided to leave your job, have started selling and saving, and mapped out where you want to go, the reality that you won’t be where you are right now will hit.
Fortunately technology is on your side and you’ll be more social than you think once you set off on your trip. Don’t try to fight it, you will miss people but accepting that makes it easier to overcome this obstacle to traveling the world.
Don’t Deny It
You won’t worry too much about not having a day job or the book shelf you sold but rather all of the people who won’t be coming with you. Whether your family is nearby or not there will be friends, coworkers, and people that it will be hard to say goodbye too. To overcome this obstacle the best thing you can do is accept this. Fighting it will increase the stress you face leading up to your trip making it an obstacle again.
- Remember that others around you will be feeling the same way and will let you know. Don’t get confrontational or blow off your friends and family when they tell you that you’re going to be missed. Again, denying or fighting it only makes it an even bigger obstacle to overcome. Besides, it’s much easier (and nicer) to say “I’ll miss you too.”
I consider a laptop to be an essential travel item. You should strongly consider bringing one with you as you travel the world since it gives you so many ways to see, hear, and stay in touch with everyone – not to mention it makes it easy for everyone else to get a hold of you too. Load up your laptop with these essential software for digital nomads and learn how to bum a wi-fi signal from the road.
- Consider a long range USB antenna to snag more wireless networks.
- A travel blog is a great way to feel like you’re not so far away and keep your friends and family up-to-date with your stories and decent travel photos. Just remember that even your mom will stop reading if you don’t keep your travel blog interesting.
- For connectivity, free video chat, and cheap calls to cell phones, embrace Skype.
- Aside from your family and friends, if you’re worried about missing your favorite TV shows you can still get access US websites while abroad with HotSpot Shield.
You Will Be More Social
Extroverted or introverted you will be more social after you start traveling. Traveling solo forces you out of your shell and exploring the world with a partner or some friends makes you much more approachable (and people will approach you!) Traveling by nature is a social activity and you’ll be surrounded by people most times you visit anywhere and certainly will bump other travelers that are doing just what you are.
It’s hard to alleviate the anxiety of missing people by telling yourself “well I’ll meet other people” before you actually do – so immerse yourself with some perpetual nomads you should read.
- Not enough? Here are some more travel blogs you should read and even more links.
Some Other Ways To Keep In Touch
- Encourage your friends and family members to come and visit you on stops along your trip. It will be fun to see each other again and they’ll get to taste a part of your journey. They might be inspired to travel around the world too!
- There are plenty of travel bloggers around the world (you may be following some) and they/we’re generally a friendly bunch. See if any are along your route and would like to meet up for coffee or a meal.
- Of course Facebook and Twitter. (You can find me on both Facebook and Twitter.)
Let The Obstacle Overcome Itself
Missing your family and friends and worrying about it are part of the process – and overcomes itself – if you let it. The tools to stay in touch are at your fingertips and there’s no rule of the universe that says once you leave to travel you’ll never see anyone you knew ever again.
Of course you can always go back to visit, or in many cases, you will be back to visit. The less you push back the smaller this obstacle becomes until there isn’t too much to overcome. What gets tricky is not the people who are here today but the little ones who might be on the way or have just arrived. We’ll overcome that obstacle next Thursday in Part 5.
[photos by: helgasms!, lunae, positivelypurple]
Wow I love this series, the last three posts really helpful. On the subject of this post I think I’m too far away now to feel like I’m about going to miss anyone but I can definitely imagine my girlfriend is going to miss her family really badly. Great advice on the wifi connection as well I’ll be sure to get some of that gear to help find a hotspot
Thank you Kevin, it’s been fun to write this series. It was actually going to be just a single post but I found there was so much to cover. I hadn’t done such a long series before and wasn’t sure how it would turn out.
It’s definitely harder for some people and I think the feelings can come and go. Those long range antennas are great and you’ll be able to make use of the extended range. Hopefully some of those tools will help your girlfriend not feel so far away from family and friends.
It turned out great. Excellent points! Like Kevin, I love this series too. I especially agree about the laptop as a must item to bring. Right now I can’t even imagine traveling without one.
By the way, after “You will be more social”, isn’t it supposed to be “…and exploring the world *without* a partner or some friends…” instead of “with”. I often find people approach me more if I’m on my own rathern than with a group of friends.
Hi Erica, I couldn’t imagine leaving without a laptop. Losing Twitter for two hours was hard enough haha.
About being more social, I think it can go in two ways. Couples and smaller groups I find get approached more than bigger groups but you’re right – traveling alone is probably when you end up being the most social. It makes you more out going and everyone wants to talk to you!
love ur series of tips and pointers!!
Thanks Rush – it’s not so hard to overcome these obstacles once you break them down and go for it!
For me personally, the farther away I get, the closer I get to my family. When you live nearby there is no urgency to meet. Now, when my wife and I visit, all of my closest family and friends make a special effort to meet us.
I have family in Hungary and in Canada and it really is great to see everyone in such a short time. Many people have commented that they see me more often then they do other family members.
There is something about coming from far away that makes each visit more important and precious. I definitely make much more effort to try and see everyone I can when I am home.
Definitely true. Coming home becomes an event – I hadn’t thought about it that way. You treasure each moment when you are there 🙂
This is a good series of advice and tips. I don’t know whether I miss my family or not. They drive me crazy when I go home which is why I leave. But I do miss them more when it comes to Christmas and birthday celebrations. I totally don’t miss my mother’s cooking.
Thank you Cate. I think of anything I miss about my family that’s not nearby it’s the food 🙂